Is forgiveness a choice. If so, how come many are unable to forgive no matter how much they try over the years?

Posted by: Najs

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Yes, it is a choice and I'm living proof that I truly forgive everyone that has done me wrong and hurt me.

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No, I am unable to forgive no matter how hard I try.

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Stefy says2015-06-03T22:07:38.4837236-05:00
Its a choice to an extent. Sometimes people have gone theough serious trauma. Society should put more focus on helping them rather than pressuring them to forgive and get over it.
Stefy says2015-06-03T22:08:02.9637515-05:00
Theres a middle ground between these two choices...
Forthelulz says2015-06-03T22:23:04.1082748-05:00
Why two absolutes?
Najs says2015-06-03T23:33:34.5334572-05:00
@Stefy: "Society should put more focus on helping them rather than pressuring them to forgive and get over it." Yeah I agree.
Najs says2015-06-03T23:35:23.1619858-05:00
@Forthelulz, Well I figured a person can't half forgive someone. Either they forgive or not, right?
Kreakin says2015-06-04T17:14:26.3288024-05:00
It's hard to forgive someone that isn't sorry.
Najs says2015-06-04T19:28:37.8761846-05:00
@Kreakin, I must agree. Especially if they are proud of the pain they caused.
Nerox says2015-06-06T05:04:32.5787022-05:00
The options are far too black and white. While I am able to forgive everyone, I do not believe one can spontaneously choose to forgive someone. That is illogical. Forgiveness requires immense rationality, empathy, understanding, and sometimes closure. Forgiveness is a thought process, not an on and off switch. We cannot choose how we feel.
Najs says2015-06-06T16:14:01.4716310-05:00
@Nerox, true we can not choose how we feel. Do you think everyone has the capacity to forgive?
Najs says2015-06-07T23:31:29.9025875-05:00
@Nerox, I did leave the poll open for anyone to add their own option so there can be a variety.

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