Is getting married and having children overrated?

Posted by: leonitus2464

  • Yes

  • No

45% 10 votes
55% 12 votes
  • Marriage is not necessarily bad (it would depend on an incredibly wide range of factors), however, the establishment of a blind social standard that one must get married is overrated. If one is only getting married because they are being pressured into it, is the marriage really worth going through?

  • people seem to think that its the ultimate way to be happy. they fail to understand its a matter of personal preference some like it some don't I don't want to get married or have kids ever and I hate hearing things like "oh you'll change your mind" its annoying and disrespectful.

  • The idea that everybody needs to get married and have a happily little family is overrated-- families aren't for everybody & marriage isn't for everybody either.

  • There are more things in life than fulfilling the biological imperative to reproduce... There are also more things to do that are equally satisfying and create something that will outlast you.

  • It's everyone's end goal. Something most people fail to accomplish.

  • Of course you can both live together without getting married.

  • I don't believe marriage should be temporary so I don't believe the people who say "your just going to be divorced". Very few reasons are used that make it OK to do so in my opinion . No it isnt the ultimate way to be happy but it is the ultimate commitment as long as you don't view divorce as an option. it makes it ok to have kids because you know that the person will never leave. Kids are not overrated, they are your legacy. Kids are the only thing you can give to the world worth a dam. you can have a house but many people would gladly burn it down if it some how could save a child. You can become a king and be remembered for generations but it you still don't have kids you have no legacy, no heir.

  • It's a very rewarding experience. However, the self-centered types just aren't equipped with the ability to handle it.

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ben671176 says2014-07-29T19:54:56.9446731-05:00
These days, people just get married and divorce. What's the point in marriage when you won't love the person in the end?
leonitus2464 says2014-07-29T19:56:52.2932913-05:00
Most of the people in my family who have gotten married have second thoughts ounce its over.
PatJC123 says2014-07-29T19:58:18.0855903-05:00
Stable families are good for the economy.
leonitus2464 says2014-07-29T20:00:53.8991282-05:00
Those are rare and thats a common misconception it makes little to no difference to the economy. Marriage is also a bad idea if your a man divorce court is made to screw men over.
leonitus2464 says2014-07-29T20:36:22.8519457-05:00
@Phoenix007 thank you. I think its a matter of personal preference some want families some don't im one who doesn't and never will.
YamaVonKarma says2014-07-29T20:38:34.0510011-05:00
If my wife ever wanted to cheat on me/leave me, I'd sleep with her sister or best friend. Revenge feels soo good.
YamaVonKarma says2014-07-29T20:39:09.2140773-05:00
I'd make an evening of cheating on her. I'd even put my exploits online.
ladiesman says2014-07-29T20:54:27.9661049-05:00
I agree with Phoenix007. Getting married and raising a family is a strong social and cultural expectation that seems to be everlasting. It's not worth going through marriage and parenthood if you're compelled by external pressures. It's perfectly okay to be married and childless, or unmarried and childless.
Formerland1 says2014-07-29T22:03:05.8355534-05:00
I think the main cause of divorce ( is Marage ha ha ) is alcohol and poor judgement .
leonitus2464 says2014-07-30T10:28:50.3431658-05:00
@SweetTea how can not doing something thats optional be self-centered your not obligated to get married in any way and in america you get to choose what makes you happy. @o0jeannie0o a commitment for the sake of a commitment that doesn't give me any happiness or joy or any gain of any kind would just be a meaningless commitment also your legacy will only last as long as the human race or at least your genetic legacy your family's future generations will only remember you for so long maybe a few hundred years or so it doesnt mean much in retrospect.
leonitus2464 says2014-07-30T10:31:36.8925506-05:00
Again personal preferance i dont want to and never will because contrary to what people think now not everyone is cut out for a family or kids or both in my case both never have never will.
SweetTea says2014-07-30T17:29:04.6120015-05:00
Leonitus2464 ... You are not comprehending my initial post. I didn't say marriage was a must. I didn't say that those who don't marry must be self-centered. I said that my personal experience with marriage & family has been very rewarding. I've been married 32 years to a man who is truly my best friend & soul mate. We have a great life & family. That doesn't mean marriage works for everybody. Marriage is a work constantly in-progress. Unfortunately, the world is filled with a lot of quitters who are too lazy to put much into any relationship. Divorce rates remain high, but they are lower than in the past. An observation I did make was that marriage isn't something the self-centered are equipped to handle. Marriage & parenting require a lot of patience, love, understanding & a willingness to sacrifice for others. It's not a ME-Parade! The self-centered just are not wired to do that, or do it for very long. Therefore, they aren't good candidates for marriage and/or parenting. Since you mentioned "your genetic legacy your family's future generations will only remember you for so long", I will add that has NOTHING to do with marriage or family. It does, however, speak volumes about your personal motivations!
leonitus2464 says2014-07-30T17:56:16.9774373-05:00
@SweetTea it sounded like you were making a false assumption that people who dont get married are self centered. Now your making more false assumptions first off the second dentience wasnt even a response to you it was a response to @o0jeannie0o and you missed the point of the sentence my point was that your legacy doesnt last as long as you might hope it will and by genetic legacy I meant your genes that you carry on into future genarations.
leonitus2464 says2014-07-30T17:57:09.5192477-05:00
My personal motivation to not have chilldren or get married how terrible.
SweetTea says2014-07-31T03:42:09.3912867-05:00
Leonitus2464 ... No false assumptions, hon. I said, "You are not comprehending my initial post." And you just admitted, "... It sounded like you were making a false assumption." So, obviously, you weren't comprehending the post. And you seem to have a problem with holding adult conversation, too. Why is that? If you want a private conversation, on any topic, send that person a message. If you post, you are open to comments from others!
leonitus2464 says2014-07-31T04:00:55.8109875-05:00
I never said you couldnt comment.
leonitus2464 says2014-07-31T04:05:12.3220885-05:00
And cant you see how someone who will never get married and doesn't want that lifestyle could misconstrue you comment and think it means if you don't get married your self centered "It's a very rewarding experience. However, the self-centered types just aren't equipped with the ability to handle it." Sweet Tea. If that's not what you meant you should have specified it but you didn't.
MasterDebater0 says2014-08-08T05:37:51.6821667-05:00
Marriage is a bad idea. How can you promise someone your entire life? Do you know what kind of person you will be in 10 years? 20 years? 50 years? How about your partner? It is true that some can enjoy a marriage for a lifetime, but in most cases that doesn't happen.

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