Is the fact that a girl is ridiculed for sleeping around, yet a guy praised for the same, effectively sexist?

Posted by: Zylorarchy

  • Yes

  • No

50% 19 votes
50% 19 votes
  • Yes, this is obvious. The girl and guy have done the same act here and yet often, a girl is ridiculed and put down as opposed to the guy being praised as a "legend". Sexism is discrimination/prejudice based upon gender, the girl is treated different purely because she is female and for some reason, society deems it unacceptable for a girl to do this act, yet praise worthy for a guy to do it.

  • It's funny how people go 'so many pregnant girls now-a-days' as a way to say "so many s|uts!" but then forget, it's just as many awful guys that are doing it. It is sexist. Women are held to a higher level of expectations and there's two options 1.) be a "prude" and get harassed or 2.) be a "s|ut" and get harassed AND probably pregnant.

  • Of course it is sexist. It is an aspect of patriarchy.

  • It is sexist in both directions actually, young guys are expected to sleep around with lots of women (and are ridiculed as well if they do not meet standards) just like young women are expected to do the opposite. Just wanted to point this out to everybody.

  • It's just how it goes. Double standard.

  • Did you leave ANY examples that support your claim in this equal country, don't complain about stupid stuff when you should help women bieng raped in Somalia.

  • In what culture is a guy praised for being a hound dog? It led to Bill Clinton's call for impeachment. It cost Mark Sanford the Governor's office in SC. Most women won't date a known player for all the obvious reasons. Perhaps, among teen boys in a locker-room, this is something to applaud? Most grown adults don't act that sophomoric.

  • There is a socio-biological reason for this: 1) Men are biologically more attracted by sex than women. 2) In our society, it is a lot easier for a woman to get laid than for a man. 3) Men are (most of the time) the ones that ask for sex. 4) That's why it is viewed as an achievement for a man and not for a woman. In other words: Men: "Wow! You managed to get all these girls?" Women: "You got convinced to have sex by all these guys?" Just to be clear, I'm not saying that this is okay, I'm simply saying that it is explainable and that it is not anyone's fault.

  • I don't see men being praised for being hound dogs from my own experience.

  • What burn castle said.

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Zylorarchy says2014-07-08T07:49:04.9363730-05:00
Ben671176 and SweetTea: Whether this occurs is not a debate, but a fact. Yes it is a teenager thing SweetTea, an extremely common part of the "Youth Culture" and considering your age ben671176 I am surprised you are asking me for evidence as I should imagine you would witness this at school. I am sorry for sounding so blunt but you can either falsely pretend this does not exist or face the facts. Your answers are irrelevant for you are arguing it does not exist, you have essentially ignored what this poll asks.
ben671176 says2014-07-08T07:51:08.2003569-05:00
No the Poll shows that men are not suspected to work hard and that people think women are more prone to get the job done effectively and that men are prone to sit around and complain.
Zylorarchy says2014-07-08T07:54:50.9825288-05:00
Ben671176: I have no idea how you reached that conclusion...
ben671176 says2014-07-08T08:03:27.3394203-05:00
This debate. And how most teachers say women are smarter then men
Zylorarchy says2014-07-08T08:04:41.5656477-05:00
Ben671176: And that is relevant to this how..?
ben671176 says2014-07-08T08:06:47.8500762-05:00
"Is the fact that a girl is ridiculed for sleeping around, yet a guy praised for the same, effectively sexist?" I stated that because people actually expect greatness from women, not from men, that's why they tell women to sit up straight and not men.
Preston says2014-07-08T08:14:50.0932628-05:00
Confused I am.
Zylorarchy says2014-07-08T08:17:03.7945702-05:00
Ben671176: Where did you get this from? Never have I experienced or seen evidence to suggest that "greatness" is expected from women and not from men.
Preston says2014-07-08T08:21:38.5161687-05:00
I have, bens right, its quite often boys are ridiculed infront of peers for being stupid or not meeting standards, while girls receive constant praise. EXAMPLE: UNO a college in NE offered 800 to any teacher to bring a female (per female) to a seminar with their males. At no point were any guys invited after that because teachers wanted money.
ben671176 says2014-07-08T08:22:11.3235996-05:00
Whatever, I mostly see idiot men dabbing girl's crotches in class.
Zylorarchy says2014-07-08T08:26:26.9862418-05:00
Preston: This doesn't mean it should happen, two wrongs DO NOT make a right? Personally I have not seen that women are expected to be great and the opposite is true of men, but it is a big world. Just because however, this happens does not mean men and women should be treated differently when it comes to sexual habits.
Haroush says2014-07-08T09:14:20.5672498-05:00
Women are getting away with cheating more so then men in today's day and age..
Preston says2014-07-08T09:32:00.7844365-05:00
No but its a double standard to say "Girls shouldn't be judged if they sleep around" but then say "Girls only seminar because I want money," or "Its Ok because she is a girl"
discomfiting says2014-07-08T09:32:59.4821842-05:00
How is the topic of cheating relevant to the topic of guys being praised for being horn dogs, rapists and getting laid?
Formerland1 says2014-07-08T09:34:19.3592365-05:00
Men are more aggressive ( don't debate it is a bio fact. ) so smarter men are really smart the reason less intelligent men do that is because they need something to be competitive in .
Haroush says2014-07-08T09:35:06.0968365-05:00
Because if the general population of men are horn dogs, then that would mean most men are cheating.... (doh)
discomfiting says2014-07-08T09:36:40.9292365-05:00
Not everybody believes sex is only for relationships. It doesn't mean that, you can't assume that either.
Haroush says2014-07-08T09:39:46.4082998-05:00
That isn't what I am saying Dis... (Deep Breath) If the general population of men are horn dogs, then that would mean, those men who are in relationships are most likely cheating. Is that good enough for you PC Police officer?
The_Immortal_Emris says2014-07-08T09:46:24.1979314-05:00
It's not just a teenager thing. Adult, single women who have sex are characterized as predatory cougars, while older single men are portrayed as silver foxes who are doing what is natural. Young men who haven't done it are considered weak and unfavorable, while young women who haven't are seen as virtuous. Men, young and old, who do it are considered successful, where women are considered s1utty. It is a ridiculous double standard, and I am sad to see so many people are content with it.
The_Immortal_Emris says2014-07-08T09:47:44.3512313-05:00
@Haroush - A desire for a large amount of sex does not mean a certainty of adultery.
Formerland1 says2014-07-08T09:48:51.4780313-05:00
I don't think that's real , at least half of men currently in a relationship are not cheating
ben671176 says2014-07-08T09:49:03.1624313-05:00
She stands upon the further side, Between us flows the Nile; And in those waters deep and wide There Lurks a crocodile. Yet is my love so true and sweet, A word of power, a charm ---, The stream is land beneath my feet And bears me without harm. 'For I shall come to where she stands, No more be held apart; And I shall take my darling's hands And draw her to my heart.'
Preston says2014-07-08T11:12:30.0270146-05:00
@Haroush your the reason people cry double standard, women cheat just as often. Its funny to see us saying look people have double standards and then you post something supporting us.
Haroush says2014-07-08T13:53:50.2750238-05:00
Haroush says2014-07-08T14:04:46.7101417-05:00
Here is a link to another article which is discussed in Yahoo answers, but the link to the source its self doesn't work no more apparently. Though I will tell you this too. Women get caught a lot less than men that cheat. Just like to put that out there. Many men think women are so innocent and could do nothing wrong, when in fact all they are doing is incubating naivety. Lastly, if I my views are the reason there is a battle of the sexes, then that would mean, if I just simply disappeared, the gender war would be over. Well, I am here to tell you this isn't true once so ever.
Haroush says2014-07-08T14:04:56.7721417-05:00
Haroush says2014-07-08T14:11:13.8709417-05:00
If men are "horn dogs" then that would mean they have a very high sex drive. Therefore, your comment was pointless Immortal.
Preston says2014-07-08T14:15:07.4127376-05:00
Haroush, your still supporting it, your also killing your side. Theres no guy here calling names so who is the real problem?
Haroush says2014-07-08T14:19:39.7110088-05:00
How am I supporting a double standard if I am fighting against what the reality is. That is women are getting away with murder when it comes to the topic of cheating. Furthermore, extreme feminism is on the rise... Don't believe me? Go see what the media is supporting and telling the general public. Lastly, look at how Hollywood is influencing society.
The_Immortal_Emris says2014-07-08T14:21:42.3909816-05:00
@Haroush: You clearly didn't comprehend my comment. Possessing a "high sex drive" or being a 'horn-dog' as you say, doesn't mean one is going to cheat. I have an immense sex drive. I do not cheat.
The_Immortal_Emris says2014-07-08T14:23:22.8606590-05:00
@Haroush: If men get caught cheating more often then women, upon what do you base your assumption that women cheat more often? Do you have anything aside from a Yahoo questions link to support this claim?
Haroush says2014-07-08T14:24:15.6195208-05:00
Psshhh... You are talking about something personally here... And in general they are much more likely to cheat... PC policing huh?
Haroush says2014-07-08T14:25:09.2949890-05:00
Do you have anything to support your claim?
The_Immortal_Emris says2014-07-08T14:25:15.6479360-05:00
@Haroush: Rather than answer my question, you start hastily constructing a strawman. Answer the question: Upon what do you base your claim that women cheat more than men?
Haroush says2014-07-08T14:28:41.5172291-05:00
I am not constructing a straw man, you go trying to correct everything I am saying and you aren't PC policing? Psshhh.. As far as evidence goes, there is plenty of more evidence to go with that other than I provided. Simply, you are just looking to say," Oh, that isn't good enough." When it is. Look, if you can't stand the heat, then get out of the kitchen! As Harry Truman would say..
The_Immortal_Emris says2014-07-08T14:29:56.2719499-05:00
@Haroush: I don't think you have a clue what PC policing is. I'm questioning a claim you made because I don't believe it's true, and you are unable to produce any factual evidence. And you're attempting to mischaracterize my arguments because you're unable to support your own.
The_Immortal_Emris says2014-07-08T14:31:40.8276830-05:00
@Haroush: You have not provided any sources or data. I haven't dismissed anything you've offered, because you have offered nothing but your own biased perspective, which is clearly flawed. This is apparent to me, but I am open to having my mind changed. If you are able to provide some factual evidence. You've only provided a yahoo answers link. Which is not so reliable.
The_Immortal_Emris says2014-07-08T14:34:31.6799782-05:00
@Haroush: Your own source shows your statements regarding cheating to be completely false. You should read your own cited sources. "National Opinion Research Center’s General Social Survey, the percentage of wives having affairs rose to 14.7 percent in 2010, while the number of men admitting to extramarital affairs held constant at 21 percent." Men still cheat nearly 7 percent more often, according to your own data. Now, I will ask again: Can you provide a single citation to support your assertion that women cheat more than men?
Preston says2014-07-08T14:35:10.7971337-05:00
Calm down both of you!
Preston says2014-07-08T14:36:55.6770905-05:00
You are both acting like children, it doesn't matter if she has evidence, what you just stated was men "admitted" thus its men being more honest. Now clam down!
ben671176 says2014-07-08T14:37:39.8015841-05:00
Clam down? Or calm down?
Preston says2014-07-08T14:38:57.9046575-05:00
The_Immortal_Emris says2014-07-08T14:40:20.0136544-05:00
@Preston: I am completely calm. I'm calmly calling her out for being dishonest. There is nothing childish about demanding people debate honestly.
Preston says2014-07-08T14:42:44.5737173-05:00
Yes there is, once you cross the line of 3 posts in a row, all full of info! You are marked as having a TEMPER TANTRUM. It doesn't matter if she's dishonest, she's a female and she's saying females cheat, take a hint much? That alone is supporter her.
The_Immortal_Emris says2014-07-08T14:47:38.2176544-05:00
@Preston: Right, because writing an entire page of content is easy for people to read. I break my posts up by paragraph so they are organized. And one of the two responses only posted before Haroush's because I had the comment box open when she responded. So really, you and I both only had two comments in a row. Do you consider two comments in a row to be a "temper tantrum"? No one has lost their temper. I just type swiftly, and think sharply.
Preston says2014-07-08T14:53:33.2758499-05:00
3 posts not 2, and yes you were freaking out, they all came out in less than 5 minutes, so learn when to make like a banana and split.
The_Immortal_Emris says2014-07-08T14:55:41.9448699-05:00
@Preston: No one was "freaking out", one has to be emotionally invested to "freak out", I simply enjoy giving liars a hard time, and often that is best done by confronting their posts categorically.
Haroush says2014-07-08T15:31:41.0918252-05:00
You proved my point Immortal, more men are honest, while more women lie about cheating..
Haroush says2014-07-08T15:35:53.4571619-05:00
Haroush says2014-07-08T15:38:03.5408422-05:00
There is nothing wrong with passion in a debate, if anything, it gives the audience more entertainment.
Haroush says2014-07-08T15:39:30.0789369-05:00
This is actually what DDO needs more of Preston... Well passionately debated topics, instead of them being boring and lame.
Haroush says2014-07-08T15:40:52.1666631-05:00
May I also ask why there has been a rise in what they call in today's society "cougars"?
The_Immortal_Emris says2014-07-08T15:41:28.0399313-05:00
@Preston: Now THAT was an emotional response.
ben671176 says2014-07-08T15:41:30.1615177-05:00
ben671176 says2014-07-08T15:42:39.1286756-05:00
I live on the Internet. Https://sindarfrom.Files.Wordpress.Com/2013/07/watamote-episode-1-pic2.Jpg
Haroush says2014-07-08T15:43:07.4663304-05:00
Immortal, what was an emotional response?
Preston says2014-07-08T15:44:23.9536207-05:00
He's pretty cold blooded idk if it was
The_Immortal_Emris says2014-07-08T15:45:35.9792824-05:00
@Haroush: Actually, I regret posting that, I got five notifications of posts on here and I posts my comment before reading your responses which were very calm. I apologize. I fell into the same trap Preston did. But to answer your question. Cougars are more common now because women are no longer as vilified for being sexually active. A separate poll conducted regarding honesty is not an accurate measure and certainly doesn't reflect on the honesty of the answers in a separate anonymous poll.
Preston says2014-07-08T15:48:41.5220766-05:00
Why not A=B B=C A=B WOMEN LIE = study to see if Women lie , Poll relying on honesty = lower numbers for women Wonder why
Haroush says2014-07-08T15:50:04.6544766-05:00
I respectfully disagree with you about the poll on honesty, but no worries, everything is cool. Like I said before, passionate debates are very healthy for everyone, including this website. It helps get out any frustration you may have with the topic in question. Don't feel bad though.
The_Immortal_Emris says2014-07-08T15:50:21.9586798-05:00
@Preston: Now you're using ad-hominem? I'm cold blooded now? Good lord, and you have the gall to call us childish.
Haroush says2014-07-08T15:51:54.2482798-05:00
Preston, Did you computer just go hay wire or something?
Preston says2014-07-08T15:52:12.4496766-05:00
Humorless = 1; sorry just writing a program about you :p and yes your childish lets look at how outraged you've gotten in comparison to me.
Haroush says2014-07-08T15:52:23.1200766-05:00
Lol, Did your..
Preston says2014-07-08T15:52:51.8552766-05:00
Nope just did a comparison
The_Immortal_Emris says2014-07-08T15:56:15.3728766-05:00
@Preston: It's You're*, pet peeve of mine, especially when someone is trying desperately to put themselves on a higher pedestal than others. Who is more childish, the individual willing to exchange in discourse with another person, or the one who just relies on personal insults and poorly engineered jokes.
Preston says2014-07-08T16:01:31.7779631-05:00
No, the child is the one sitting here trying to show intellect he doesn't have, you have been derogative to everyone you've spoken to in this thread, everyone, and excuse me if I'm typing fast and making occasional mistakes, I'm also moving around 3 million in retirement funds, if I screw that up people lose their retirement altogether. So when your a little older and understand everyone is looking at this and saying, "wow what a child, attacking everything" , then you will realize no one here respects you, we don't even tolerate you. We allow you to exist and choose to converse with you, now you decide where this goes ok? I will be more serious if you would like, of course that means I have to stop working to type.
Preston says2014-07-08T16:02:30.6307872-05:00
You claim to be 33, act it :p
Haroush says2014-07-08T16:04:28.3647419-05:00
May I add in a comment here?
Stonehe4rt says2016-01-20T04:29:23.8152517Z
My gut says No, simply because no man is truly a virgin, while a girl can be. I know its still not vaild I just chose off gut.

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