Love is a feeling!
Love is a choice!
Sometimes you can't help who you fall in love with
because it just randomly happens. you slowly fall in love without even noticing and one day you realise that the existence of that specific person makes you really happy. one day you just find yourself smiling for no reason while thinking of them. on day your world appears as a person. it's not a choice. it is the most beautiful feeling
"Love is a Choice" is a false balm. If one was told that they need to wake up every morning and choose to HATE someone they previously felt only indifference toward - it would be impossible. And, to tell someone that they must wake up every morning and LOVE someone that they now feel indifference toward -- well, it is just as impossible. I know many couples who are in relationships and marriages that have their occasional low points but, even after many years, they remain passionately in love and entirely compatible. They were compatible from day one. These couples are in love and they never have the need to say they are making a "choice" to love. Their love is just present. It lives on it's own. So, at best, we can only say that love is a choice for SOME. And, I have found that those who say "well, love is a choice" are those who have found they are no longer compatible with their mate. Or, they have children and the "choice" is to remain together because of them. Love is not a choice. Who we chose to be in a relationship with is the choice. If one says "love is eventually nothing but a choice" their relationship will turn into a "job". Get up in the morning and punch in. I don't really like coconut. I mean, I'll eat it. I'm not allergic to it. But, I don't really enjoy it. If someone said to me "you need to get up every day and make a choice to eat a little bit of coconut". Well...I could make a choice and do it I suppose. Eventually it will become a habit. But, it won't make me love coconut.