Ephesians chapter 5:21 to 6:9 is titled “instructions for Christian households. It is meant in context for Christian and god-fearing relationships. Wives are instructed to submit to their husbands, for the “husband is the head of the wife, as christ is the head of the church… Now as the church submits to christ, also wives should submit to their husbands in everything” But, it continues to say "Husbands, love your wives, just as christ loved the church and gave himself up for her… in this same way, husbands are ought to love their wives as their own bodies… After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as christ does the church” If a husband loves his wife, as christ loved the church, and it is a godly relationship, the husband won't request anything ungodly of the wife, so it will be easy for the wife to submit, trusting in the lord and husband, that nothing ungodly shall be asked of her.
No they should not be submissive, but naturally in any partnership (such as non romantic ones) one person is generally more forgoing and takes the lead which doesn't necessarily mean oppressing them. Also the wife, as can be the case with the man, might just not want to make decisions.
Fellow and equal people. Nothing more needs to be said.
I'm not sure if this is about the bible verse that says "wives, submit to your husbands" but that's actually a mistranslation. The original Greek word that translated to "submit" here actually translates to "support". Wives are meant to support their husbands, but they should not be slaves to them