Well this question is simply just asking what is more important in the world ... Grace or justice. For example, if you have the ability to forgive someone who just murdered your brother and look them in the eye and still love them as if they were your brother.... Is this better than saying I hope you rot in hell and get raped in jail? Should we want them to be in jail at all? Or should we not want them to be in jail? I truly believed this one of the hardest questions for someone to answer.
Okay well them I am not sure what my answer will be. I will want justice, however I would still want to look at them as of they were still one of us, a human. I would want him to repent for his actions and be punished. However, I would still want to forgive him, depending on if he regretted his actions or why he did it or his family life etc. I think I would go with justice. I would want (I don't want to use this word but I guess I have to) "revenge" or the scale to be evened out. But i would keep him in my mind and prayers and pray for God to help him.
I think a balance is important. Grace is important in terms of forgiveness, but just because you forgive someone does not mean that they should not be punished. For example if you own a store and somebody steals a lot of merchandise from you, it is important to be able to say I forgive you, but forgiveness is not the same as forgetting and taking away the consequences. The person would still have to go to jail, but would go knowing that they were forgiven by the person they had hurt. It's also proven that forgiveness helps you to relieve anxiety and other negative psychological effects, so if you were in this situation forgiveness would also be important because it would benefit you.
Violet, What about when Yeshua tells Kefa (Peter),"Those who live by the sword, die by the sword." The reason I bring this up is because even though Peter was justified in his actions, he was wrong according to Yeshua's observance. This being said, this is what grace is based on, but not the human way of thinking. Did you know there is no such word as fair in the Hebrew language? And yes I do understand english is based off of Latin and Greek.